My guy, Joey, and I met during the first semester of our junior year in high school. We were both sixteen and we happened to be in a keyboarding class together. His computer somehow "broke" and he was moved to the only other available computer which happened to be next to me. We immediately hit it off as friends and teased and joked around with each other throughout class. The teacher was always picking on Joey for talking too much (to me) but, she never once called me out for it. I was a favorite:) haha. I didn't really have any feelings for Joey at that point but, I thought he was a cute, nice guy and kind of left it at that. We ended the semester in December of 1999 and went our separate ways for the holidays. When we came back to school I had pretty much moved on and wasn't thinking about him anymore but, he was still thinking about me! He transferred out of his Home Economics class and into my music appreciation class (sneaky guy!) and since our teacher never taught us anything (how sad huh) we just sat around and chatted everyday in class and continued to become better friends. God had a plan!
I had never really dated anyone up to that point. I had good guy friends that I liked before Joey but, I had never even kissed a guy yet. I really believe in saving that stuff for the right person...or for who you hope to be Mr. Right. It doesn't always work out that way and I understand that. I asked my mom if I could go on a group date with Joey and she gave me the green light. I had never asked a guy to do anything before, let alone initiate the exchanging of phone numbers. (Yes, I am old fashioned) Clearly this boy meant something more to me! Turns out he had every intention of asking me out that same day and he was absolutely blown away that I beat him to it..me, the shy, never date a guy kinda girl.
Anyhoo, we did go on several group dates and I grew more and more fond of Joey and I think he was pretty hooked on me from the get go because he was so persistent and faithful to call, hang out with me, write me sweet and silly notes everyday and eventually in May of 2000 after having some very serious heart to heart talks about our faith and how important it needs to be in our relationship, we made our relationship official...and then I had my first kiss, with the guy who is now my hubby. So special!
We had the usual rough patches in our dating relationship but, it was still a great 4 years. Bringing two people with totally different upbringings, different likes and dislikes and opposite personalities...it's just the reality of life that it will take time for two people to grow to understand each other well, to be patient even when it's hard, to let go of jealousies, to love and forgive endlessly. Love only grows stronger when it's tested if you let it and that's how it has worked out for us. My guy proposed to me in the Summer of 2003 at the beach on a super chilly night, while we sat atop a huge sand dune eating ice cream and looking out at a gorgeous orange sunset. We were engaged for about 10 months and got married on May 1st, 2004 at our home church, Calvary Chapel and had a small beach themed reception after wards. It was a wonderful, peaceful day for me. Then we honeymooned in Costa Rica for 10 days! Awesome! God is so good!
We worked and lived in California for a few years and finally realized that we could not stay in CA forever as the housing market was just ridiculously expensive. We both wanted to start a family someday at that point and knew we needed to move where we could make that a financial possibility. God was SO faithful and did so many amazing things to get us to where we are today...North Carolina. I wish I could elaborate as it was really one miracle after another but, it would make this already far to long post...much longer. In October of 2007 we packed up our things and had to drive separately (both of our cars) across country for five days. We love it here and feel very strongly that we are exactly where God wants us to be. We both work remotely for our companies out of California and feel very blessed to be able to do that!
Our first child, Daisy Love Martinez, was born March 31st, 2010 and has been the most amazing gift that God has ever given us. We adore her and praise God for her daily. I will be honest...having a child was a bit of an adjustment for me relationally speaking because Joey and I had nearly 10 years alone together before little Miss Daisy joined us. I was very used to our Friday night date nights, our lazy Sundays of napping all day after church and just watching movies late at night while we snuggled together. Um, that all changes after having a child and I knew that it would but, it still takes time to get used to the new when the old was so familiar. I'm so thankful to my handsome, patient, loving hubby for being so helpful, understanding and supportive as we have stepped into this parenting journey together. I love my guy SO much that sometime my heart hurts. I don't even think I could express to him in words how much he means to me...and unfortunately these days I am so busy that I feel like a slacking wife. Joey, baby, I LOVE YOU SO MUCH!! You are an amazing, hard working, sexy, faithful, funny, steak grilling pro, fishing maniac and I can't wait to get older and saggy and gray with you!